I realize I'm starting to sound like a bleeding heart liberal in my old age. I don't know if my libertarian leanings are taking over, or if the complete lack of common sense in our bureaucracy is just sending me over the edge.
Male Teen Has Consensual Sex with Female Teen. He Gets 25 Years as Sex Offender, Banned from Internet.
Facts of the case:
Male 19 meets Female online. The decide to "hook up" which means they both wanted to have casual sex. The girl told the boy she was 17. She wasn't, she was 14. The girl has epilepsy and when she didn't come home on time her mom called the police thinking that there was a medical reason for her being late. The cops busted the kids and now the boy's life is ruined.
One other fact: The girl and her mother asked the court to drop the case because they admit full responsibility for the deception and the consensual nature of the "hook up".
I'm not in favor of kids having casual sex. I understand the need to protect young people from older people who are seeking to use them sexually. This case wasn't one of a predator seeking out his pray. This is a case of two kids wanting to "do it". He thought she was attractive and she was into attracting an older guy.
The plot of the crime revolves around a 8th or 9th grade girl who wanted to see if she could bed a college guy. The college freshman (being a computer major) probably didn't have tons of chicks hanging on him at school and a cute 17 year old is a legitimate score. Two teenagers wanted to get lucky with what they thought was a great catch. That's the crime. Two kids wanting to screw and now one of them has to do 25 years on the sex offenders list and have no access to the internet or computers.
I can't see any justice in this. Does that make me a bleeding heart liberal?
In Res's perfect world we would promote marriage. By promote it I mean we would encourage young adults who have reached sexual maturity to get married. As a society we would expect it of them.
People want to have sex. This starts at puberty not age 30. The ancient cultures recognized this. They planned for it. They incorporated it into the culture and the expectations of the young. When the time came, the parents helped set the kids up and got them going in their new life together.
Instead of a hook up, what if our 19 year old and 14 year old had met on line and they were honest about their desires? What if the parents had arraigned for the kids to get married?
If they had married, she would have achieved her status lay. Her girl friends would be jealous. She would have succeeded in getting her man and he would be a smart college guy with a future in a growing industry. Life would have been equally attractive for him as well. Regular sex with a horny teenage girl is it's own reward.
Depending on how careful our two lust birds were, it might be a couple of years but they will slip up and get pregnant. Once you get started having kids there isn't any real reason not to have a couple more. Kids do lots of things for a marriage. For a guy it can really sober you up and get you focused on providing. For a women it can really change the focus to her children. These things are net positives for both the couple and society as a whole.
One other benefit, you can't go to jail for having sex with your wife.
Maybe I'm not a liberal after all. I don't want teenagers to go to jail if they have sex. I just want them to get married first. That doesn't make me a conservative either. I guess that makes me a retrogressionist. I need a better word for it.