All in the Family featured the curmudgeonly Archie Bunker. Archie was television’s most famous grouch, blunt, blustering, straightforward and untouched by the PC crowd. He was the archetype of the conservative male. Michael desprately tried to reeducate him, but he persisted in his breviloquence.

Looking back at the last 40 years, we realize: ARCHIE WAS RIGHT!


So Why Sex?

When you think about it, why did God give man sex?  He didn't have to.  Other creatures reproduce asexually. God didn't have to give us sex the way he did either.  There are animals that reproduce sexually that only do so during certain seasons.  Sex didn't have to include a component of pleasure.  Sex didn't have to be something we enjoy.

Characteristics of Human Sexuality
  • Produces offspring
  • Pleasurable
  • Is both logical and emotional in nature
  • Both carnal and spiritual
  • Available any time of year
  • Does not automatically or even reliably reproduce 
  • Progressive in nature
    • man sees women
    • they touch
    • more frequent touching/caressing leads to greater physical intimacy
    • greater intimacy leads to giving and receiving erotic pleasure
    • which will lead to copulation
  • Addictive
    • minor sexual stimulation leads to a need for greater stimulation
    • once a person discovers orgasm they will need it repeatedly
      • orgasm releases powerful chemicals in the human brain
      • biochemical mechanism is similar to that of additive substances
    • Creates feelings of euphoria and well being
    • Creates desire to re-experience
    • Creates dependency on the source of the pleasure
  • Creates uniquely bond pairs
I'm sure there are more things that can be added to the list.  So what does sex accomplish?
  • Creates a basis for life long partnership
  • Establishes a bonded pair
  • Provides for biological reproduction
  • Physical pleasure
  • Fun
  • Emotional intimacy
  • Serves as a platform for revelation of spiritual truth
    • creates a comparative example
    • revels multifaceted truth  
The Christian perspective on sex should incorporate both the scientific and  biological aspects as well as revealed biblical truth.  Going back to Genesis, God created things as He wanted them and then He pronounced His evaluation.  God said, "it is good".  That incudes human sexuality, and all its facets. 

Because God created it, He is best able to tell us how to use it.  Therefor the one man, one women model is valid and can be expected to give the most satisfying results.  Also the very fact of a man and women having sex was enough to create the "one flesh" reality.  If we accept the implications of Gen 2 on the nature and purpose of sex, then we must also accept that the same passage indicates that couples engaging in sex are engaging in the marriage relationship. 

1 comment:

  1. Susan1:27 AM

    The sexual relationship is so important in a marriage, that to violate that trust between the spouses by cheating is the only allowable reason God appears to give approval of for divorce.
    Once that magical trust is broken, it is just never the same, even if a woman or man is magnanimous enough to forgive that spouse. You truly are of the "one flesh". Like trying to separate two sheets of paper that have been glued together, you just can't do it.

    IIRC, there is also a passage where it is advised that you do not remarry a person once divorced from them.

    A marriage where the trust is broken by unfaithfulness is like a beautiful vase that has been broken in several pieces. You can try your best to mend it by carefully gluing the pieces back together, but it is just not going to be the same vase. It will always look cracked, and may even leak slightly. But it will never be the same.