I used to be in a position to do favors. I still am in a way, but the favors I do are much smaller today. Doing favors was fun. You get to feel good about yourself, because you are a wonderful, generous, person. More importantly other people tell you that you are wonderful.
Even if we don't always believe people telling us good things about ourselves, we like to hear it. If we suspect the praise to be a tad bit vain, its nice to hear. Besides we all like to think we are wonderful. It's nice to have the ole ego stroked.
Receiving a favor can be trickier. Especially when we can use it, and it comes totally out of the blue. That happened to me today. A customer who knows I am underemployed came in to ask me if I had heard from someone else about a job. I had not. He decided to take it upon himself to remedy that.
I have no idea what, if anything is going to come of his involvement in my affairs. I don't want to speculate or get my hopes up. Having the CFO of a $100 million dollar institution recommend you to an executive search committee, is a big solid. I had no idea that he was going to do that, or that it was even a possibility.
Receiving a favor of this magnitude was both gratifying and humbling. Gratifying because the last week at work has been less than encouraging. To have someone walk in let me know that they think enough of me to recommend me for a real job is an awesome mood booster. It's humbling because I needed the help.