All in the Family featured the curmudgeonly Archie Bunker. Archie was television’s most famous grouch, blunt, blustering, straightforward and untouched by the PC crowd. He was the archetype of the conservative male. Michael desprately tried to reeducate him, but he persisted in his breviloquence.

Looking back at the last 40 years, we realize: ARCHIE WAS RIGHT!


Receiving a Solid

I used to be in a position to do favors.  I still am in a way, but the favors I do are much smaller today.  Doing favors was fun.  You get to feel good about yourself, because you are a wonderful, generous, person.  More importantly other people tell you that you are wonderful.

Even if we don't always believe people telling us good things about ourselves, we like to hear it.  If we suspect the praise to be a tad bit vain, its nice to hear.  Besides we all like to think we are wonderful.  It's nice to have the ole ego stroked.

Receiving a favor can be trickier.  Especially when we can use it, and it comes totally out of the blue.  That happened to me today.  A customer who knows I am underemployed came in to ask me if I had heard from someone else about a job.  I had not.  He decided to take it upon himself to remedy that.

I have no idea what, if anything is going to come of his involvement in my affairs.  I don't want to speculate or get my hopes up.  Having the CFO of a $100 million dollar institution recommend you to an executive search committee, is a big solid.  I had no idea that he was going to do that, or that it was even a possibility.

Receiving a favor of this magnitude was both gratifying and humbling.  Gratifying because the last week at work has been less than encouraging.  To have someone walk in let me know that they think enough of me to recommend me for a real job is an awesome mood booster.  It's humbling because I needed the help.


  1. I believe I have said in the past on your fine blog, God works in mysterious ways. This is one fine example right here.

    That is why IMO there is no such thing as a SMALL toss away style favor. You never know who the ripples are going to impact when you do them.

    You are doing a favor, pure and simple, and this is one area where size really does not matter. Good Luck Res, I hope a great deal comes from this.

  2. WaterBoy10:29 AM

    Best of luck to you, man. I hope this opportunity comes to fruition.

    "I used to be in a position to do favors. I still am in a way, but the favors I do are much smaller today."

    Sometimes, small is good enough. Just this morning I was in line at the supermarket at the only register open. A man came up behind me with just a small basket of fruit, so I asked him if he would like to go ahead of me. It took an extra minute for me to wait while he was checked out, but it saved him six or seven minutes of his time not waiting behind me. Small thing for sure, but he seemed to be in a hurry and time can be precious at such moments.

    Carry on with the small favors, for sometimes it's all we can do.

  3. Thanks guys.

    I just got off the phone and it was one of the most promising conversations I've had in a long time.

    1. WaterBoy2:48 AM

      Good news! Onward and upward!

  4. Good luck to you. Even if we'll miss your blog missives for a bit.

  5. I have been mentioning you in my prayers as often as I can that something will break loose for you. May Hashem put you exactly where he wants you. Keep us posted.

    1. You spoke my mind exactly Rabbi B. Thank you. Both Res and my own hubby deserve a bit of good fortune.

    2. Susan,

      What's going on with your husbands job?