In my town there are three hole in the wall places that pass for "the local diner". My favorite is the one closest to my house, but all three are basically the same. You get a decent breakfast or lunch for a fair price and you get to see the same group of regulars when you go there. Personally I mostly go for a late breakfast, but I like the hamburgers too.
Most towns have one or more diners or liars club or truck stop. In big cities you have the mostly Greek but sometimes Italian owned Coney Islands. Anyway its the same idea no matter what the place is called or how big of a city you are in. Most of these restaurants have 8 to 12 items on the breakfast menu and they run specials. If you are a regular the cook will make you anything you ask for provided he has the items on hand.
My observation over the years, both as a cook and as a loyal customer is that while you can (with in reason) have whatever you want specially made for you, or you can pick from a dozen or so menu items, most guys will either 1. go with the daily special or 2. pick from a rotation of two or three favorites.
As much as I love biscuits and gravy my guy can't cook them worth a crap. So I always skip those. The breakfast burrito, the chicken fried steak, and steak and eggs are my rotation. Even with that rotation it comes down to either the burrito or a chicken fry about 90% of the time. Every waitress in the place knows my name, my wife's name, the dog's name etc. I've walked in and overheard them betting about what I'll order. So I'm not offended if I walk in and Hope places a steaming hot chicken fry, eggs over easy, wheat toast & grape jelly with extra crispy hash browns in front of me before I have a chance to order.
Question. Did I have a choice about what I was going to eat for breakfast? Of course I did. Why would the waitress pick my breakfast for me? First, because she knows after years of brining it to me exactly what I want. Second, she knew that the special that day was $2 off for one of my favorites. People make predictable choices about what they like and what they want all the time, but its still a choice. It may be a habit, but it is a choice. I could have surprised everyone and asked for oatmeal.
People make choices. We make them about breakfast and we make them about who we are attracted to sexually. After awhile our choices become habit. Like it or not people categorize, remember us, and label us by our habits. In the diner a man may be known as a trucker special with coffee and sugar. Is there more to that person than his order? Of course, but that is how he is going to be known. The waitress is going to have his coffee poured and give him extra sugar packets right off the bat, and the cook is going to start the pancakes as soon as he sees him.
Nobody is offended by any of that.
When it comes to homosexuality somehow we are supposed to pretend that things are different. We are expected to believe a person who is rational and able to make thousands of other decisions based on his own individual standards somehow loses that ability when it comes to sex. What you find sexually attractive is what you find attractive. There isn't necessarily a reason for it, it just happens to be what you enjoy. Fine. Do what you want to do. Keep it private and I'll have no reason to know or care what you are doing.
When you decide that not only do you want to do what you want, but you want people who don't do the same thing as you to approve and affirm what you are doing, you cross a very important line. Gay is not the new black. Gay is not a legitimate civil rights issue. Gay's do not have a right to ruin a mans life because he describes himself as "pro-vagina". You don't have a right to destroy people who don't want to bake you a wedding cake. I don't care what the judge says. Is there suddenly a shortage of gays working as wedding planners? Seriously, I've never met a straight wedding planner, ever. You can't tell me that one Christian baker is the only ones making wedding cakes.
The reason Putin is popular with just about everyone who isn't gay or in the media or a democrat, but I repeat myself, is that the rest of us are sick to death about hearing how you get off doing it with members of your own sex. Keep it private and we don't care that much. Shove it in our face and expect us to approve and congratulate you and we get resentful. Try recruiting our children to your lifestyle and we become protective. Leave us alone and we will leave you alone.